I wish all you moms out there a very happy Mothers’ Day!
We are moms by birth, by adoption, by fostering, and by taking people under our wings. We are moms joyfully expecting to see graduations and weddings, moms frustrated with difficult and rebellious children, moms who placed children for adoption, and moms who lost babies to miscarriage or early death, who would probably take the sorrows for a chance at the joys.
We must particularly remember that there are a lot of silent moms among us who chose to lose their babies through abortion; pray especially for their healing. What they and their partners, parents, friends, and whoever else “helped” did was evil… but their children are praying in Heaven for the salvation and healing of their mothers, and we should, too. As Catholics, we believe that the only unforgiveable sin is the one you won’t ask God to forgive. The culture tells these moms that what they did was fine; they need to know that there is both guilt and forgiveness to be had.
Add to all this a prayer that the blessing at church will avoid going on at length about the blessings of pregnancy. If you have given birth to children, you know that the pregnancy and birthing is only the beginning. If you haven’t given birth (and the infertility rate is about 10%), and are a mom by adoption, it’s another ugly reminder that most people, deep down, don’t really view you as a “real” mom, that somehow, you “don’t quite count.” (Our parish runs about 50/50 on whether or not they manage to slap all the adoptive moms in the face or not. Fathers don’t usually get this, since it’s a very rare blessing (and one that would probably generate a lot of irate e-mails to the bishop) that will go on at length about the father’s biological contribution to the process.)
Planned Parenthood is having it’s annual “honor mom by donating to support abortion” drive. Which is sort of like having a “support your synagogue by donating to your local neo-Nazi party” drive. This year, PP has gotten children’s author Judy Blume to write a *lovely* little message encouraging people to support child murder. (Sort of like the National Educators’ Association supporting pro-abortion causes; aren’t you eliminating your reason for existence? If compassion doesn’t move you, shouldn’t children’s authors and teachers be against abortion from sheer self-interest?) Lifenews’ article comments that PP’s president said she hoped Blume’s [grossly ironic] shilling would generate some more donations for the largest national purveyor of abortions, which already rakes in about $1 billion a year in revenue, including donations.
So, in a real gesture of appreciation for mom, consider making a donation to a pro-life group, crisis pregnancy center, non-profit adoption agency, etc. They often operate on a shoestring with some wonderful, selfless people working for much less than they could make elsewhere or outright volunteering.
(I was very disappointed that Gov. Huckabee (who I normally enjoy quite a bit), on his weekly Fox News show, opened with a comment about celebrating “the women who gave birth to us, and those who gave birth to our children.” As my mom would say, and this makes me what? Chopped liver?)